That relationship was fun and short-lived, but what I've learned since then has taken me a long way when dating older men. By Kateri Wozny. Most importantly, they actually want to talk about everything, and they are good listeners as well. At the time, she impressed me with her energy. Content Problems Only Women Dating Younger Men Understand Marriage Is Bad For Women’s Health Pros And Cons Of Early Marriage You Get Automatic Rights Problems Only Women Dating Younger Men Understand The Act didn't apply to Jewish marriages or those of Quakers, whose marriages continued to be ruled by their very own customs. One of the good things about dating older men is that they can actually teach you a thing or two. His libido may have dropped a little, but he’ll more than make up for it with his intimate knowledge of how to please you. In your case the age difference is barely over a decade. Dating an older man in your 20s and 30s is much different than dating one in your 40s, 50s, and 60s. Such a man is also less likely to play emotional games and has unrealistic expectations about love. An older man who is well into adulthood is more likely to have kids and marriage on his radar. Don’t try and win the son over with material things. It’s hard for me to be honest and vulnerable with a guy if I don’t how he is going to respond. Thanks for being here and keep me posted! On the other hand, one thing an older man is never going to do is ignore his partner. Thanks for commenting. What is the age difference in your relationship? The older men are the calmest human beings. Plus we had gotten to know each other a little bit better too. We both know we are interested in each other but he is hesitant to pursue anything more due to the age gap. A guy driving a late 90’s Toyota with bean bag chairs in the apartment he shares with 3 other dudes just isn’t as appealing as the guy who owns his own home and carries himself with more confidence and maturity. We find ourselves in new situations and looking at the world in a new way. Hope that helps. Required fields are marked *. We had both exited relationships right before we met, and neither of us was in a great place mentally to start a new serious relationship. Even if their relationship wasn’t great and needed to end, it’s still a huge loss to kids. He’s said things along the lines of how he might ruin my chances with some other guy my own age who could make me happier for longer. Yea, she doesn’t always get my 80’s pop-culture references and I don’t always get her 90’s hip-hop references, but we “get” each other on the stuff that really matters. Middle Class Dad also participates in affiliate programs with Siteground, CJ, ShareASale, and other sites. Also, confidence often comes with experience, and there are very few things more attractive than that. But it is important that they not knock you down, control you, or see you as less than equal. As we get introduced to their world (and they to ours) it broadens our experience and perspectives. Want to write for Middle Class Dad? Bacha David says: October 24, 2014 at 1:59 pm Interested in young ladies for relationship. It’s also not uncommon for guys to be older in relationships, so my first thought, which admittedly could be totally off base, is that there is some other reason he’s scared to commit. PROS OF DATING AN OLDER MAN. Of course I said yes, and we’ve been dating ever sense. We talked through all of the things that he was feeling hesitant about and at the end of the conversation, he asked if I wanted to give it a try. Is that because of his appearance? Older men genuinely enjoy good conversation. I guess that’s where I began the attraction for the older man type, and it used to freak my mother out. We are learning to embrace what I call my “childish ways” and what he calls his “old man quirks”. Don’t put demands or expectations on him, just clearly and plainly say what you want from the relationship. Plus, he’s a great listener. Pro #1 - Older men are more stable I think the fact that he was so hesitant to start anything shows how seriously he takes relationships and that is one thing I love about him. Let me know how it goes! If it’s meant to be, it will be. Besides feeling good together in public, you look great together, too. Torino. Click to learn more about me, Hi Jeff, I’ve been seeing this older guy for about a year now, he’s 49 and I’m 24, me and my daughter lives with him and his son who is 16 and doesn’t approve because of the big gap in our age.. Just click the link to read all the most important soulmate signs coincidences in a recent article on my site. Now when I’m 80 and she’s 63, maybe that will change. He’s been dating for a while, or already been married and divorced once. He knows his goals in life (and has probably already reached a few). I save and invest my money; I’ve never been married and I have no kids. As an older man who’s had 4 serious and a couple less serious relationships, it is impressive when a woman doesn’t have sex on the first date. In fact, I would honestly say, at least from my point of view, our age difference has never been an issue. I have a 13-year-old daughter, but I also remember being 16. Now, just because a woman wants to be with somebody who has a nice job and a stable income does not automatically mean she’s a gold digger. They understand good listening skills (click to read my article on how to improve your communication skills.). You bring up the problem, you and your wife talk it out respectfully, and reach an understanding. There are many pros and cons of marrying an older man. 8 Things I Wish Someone Had Told Me When I Was Diagnosed With Herpes. But for some husbands, it can be incredibly... Hi! There are also benefits to being an Older Father. If it was a 20+ year age difference I could accept him being cautious but an 11 year difference is fairly common. Middle Class Dad is compensated for referring traffic and business to these companies, but in no way increases the cost to you if you opt to make a purchase from my links. But, you should know that every man is different and marrying an older man may not result in the same outcome as a few other marriages. If you have been totally clear and he’s still got a lot of excuses, then I would take that as he’s not interested but somehow feels like it’s kinder to blame it on the age difference. The signs of a soulmate (click to read them on my site) aren’t always clear, and they don’t always show up in our lives at the perfect time. He’s not only dealing with the fact that you’re closer to his age than his Dad’s, but also the loss of his mom and dad’s relationship. Habits, pop culture interests, energy levels and what we do for fun can be radically different. When I met my wife, then 24 with me being 41, she approached me at a mutual friend’s birthday party which was at a bar. But it does tell me that she doesn’t just give it away to anyone, and when it did happen it was that much more special. I kept thinking, maybe I’ve been reading into everything or maybe he’s making excuses because he doesn’t want to hurt my feelings. This is mostly because they are aware of their aging looks and their lack of energy. I will also say that while we did kiss and get affectionate quite a bit that night, we did not have sex that night. It is not an arbitrary dating ritual. However, if you and your partner keep showing them how happy you are together, the opposing family members will be more likely to come around. And you’re being there in the house sort of symbolizes the end of that, even if you had nothing to do with their breakup. But we don’t usually know which until we try it. We ended up talking for hours about who knows what. That being said, we also both knew this was something special, like a soulmate. With the 49-year-old, you say you’re “embarrassed to be seen out in public”. I’m so glad to hear that and that it went so well. This can lead to him trying to control you. There’s a good chance he’s trying to push you away to see if you stop trying. (George Clooney) by Fulvio Spada is licensed by CC2.0, Jeff Campbell is a husband, father, martial artist, budget-master, Disney-addict, musician, and recovering foodie having spent over 2 decades as a leader for Whole Foods Market. I’m 34 now and I still can’t relate to kids.